Marshall B. Rosenberg Quotes

Every time I mess up is a chance to practice.
Marshall B. Rosenberg (Being Me, Loving You, 2005)
The more we talk about the past, the less we heal from it.
Marshall B. Rosenberg (Getting Past the Pain Between Us, 2004)
Expressing our vulnerability can help resolve conflicts.
Marshall B. Rosenberg (Nonviolent Communication, 2003)
At the core of all anger is a need that is not being fulfilled.
Marshall B. Rosenberg
Every criticism, judgment, diagnosis, and expression of anger is the tragic expression of an unmet need.
Marshall B. Rosenberg
When our communication supports compassionate giving and receiving, happiness replaces violence and grieving.
Marshall B. Rosenberg
We only feel dehumanized when we get trapped in the derogatory images of other people or thoughts of wrongness about ourselves. 
Marshall B. Rosenberg (Nonviolent Communication, 2003)
If I seemed to put you down, If you felt I didn’t care, Try to listen through my words, To the feelings that we share.
Marshall B. Rosenberg (Nonviolent Communication, 2003)
You can't make your kids do anything. All you can do is make them wish they had. And then, they will make you wish you hadn't made them wish they had.
Marshall B. Rosenberg
All violence is the result of people tricking themselves into believing that their pain derives from other people and that consequently those people deserve to be punished.
Marshall B. Rosenberg (Nonviolent Communication, 2003)
The kind of spirituality I value is one in which you get great joy out of contributing to life, not just sitting and meditating, although meditation is certainly valuable. But from the meditation, from the resulting consciousness, I would like to see people in action creating the world that they want to live in.
Marshall B. Rosenberg (Practical Spirituality, 2005)
When we are conscious of the life-enriching purpose behind an action we take, when the sole energy that motivates us is simply to make life wonderful for others and ourselves, then even hard work has an element of play in it. Correspondingly, an otherwise joyful activity performed out of obligation, duty, fear, guilt, or shame will lose its joy and eventually engender resistance.
Marshall B. Rosenberg (Nonviolent Communication, 2003)
Words Are Windows (or They’re Walls) I feel so sentenced by your words, I feel so judged and sent away, Before I go I’ve got to know, Is that what you mean to say? Before I rise to my defense, Before I speak in hurt or fear, Before I build that wall of words, Tell me, did I really hear? Words are windows, or they’re walls, They sentence us, or set us free. When I speak and when I hear, Let the love light shine through me. There are things I need to say, Things that mean so much to me, If my words don’t make me clear, Will you help me to be free?
Marshall B. Rosenberg (Nonviolent Communication, 2003)

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Marshall B. Rosenberg Biography

Born: October 6, 1934

Marshall B. Rosenberg is an American psychologist. He is best known for creating the Nonviolent Communcation process.

Notable Works

Nonviolent Communication (2003)
We Can Work It Out (2004)
The Surprising Purpose of Anger (2005)